How often have we looked at someone and had a critical thought about their actions, what they were wearing, or the car they were driving? I’ll admit it—I have.
If you’re a human being, you have judged and you have been judged. A judgement is an observation with an opinion attached. Even saying, “I like your hat,” is a judgement. Let this week’s Friday’s Focus inspire you to hold off on that opinion when you see someone wearing something or acting in ways you wouldn’t and then find something positive about them.
Instead of thinking how you would never wear that in public, and wonder how they could, turn it around and acknowledge how great it is that they have the courage to walk to their own drummer in public; or maybe that they have nice eyes; or maybe noticing how powerful that man’s voice must be to be able to carry all the way across the street.
We are all in this together and for once, today, just once, instead of striking out at someone who is different from you, look deeper for some good. No one likes to be judged so wouldn’t you want someone to view you the same way and notice something positive about you?
Take this one step further and make it the perfect opportunity to practice the meditation of loving-kindness to help create a connectedness with each other instead of judgment and separation.
In his book, A Path With Heart, Jack Kornfield describes this meditation as something that can be done anywhere and focused toward anyone. Wherever you are, whether you’re sitting in traffic or waiting in line at the supermarket or coffee shop, and you find yourself making a judgement about someone, simply look at them and silently say to yourself, “May he/she be filled with loving-kindness.”
This can be especially powerful when the next person you find yourself judging is the person in the mirror.
Have a great weekend!
Keeping it light and singing LiLoLa [Live, Love, Laugh] all the way…
Oh, I like this! That last line is especially powerful. Yes, I find me judging myself harshly all the time! So the next time I will see myself filled with loving kindness. And even though I don’t consider myself to be a judgy person (toward others), I do occasionally find myself silently assigning some unkind thought to a total stranger and, unreasonably, for no basis whatsoever. Shame on me for that. Thanks for this post. Next time I catch myself having such an unwise thought, I will instead send love to that total stranger. Bless you, sweet Renata, for helping to make the world a better place! ❤
Thank you Michele! You are so kind 🙂 It happens to the best of us and it can be so subtle you don’t even realize you do it. It’s a pretty cool and amazing feeling giving that loving kindness intention to complete strangers but also notice the shift you feel when you do it to yourself as well.
I love this – and I agree with Michele’s comments, too! We all judge, so this is a great reminder of how to shift it into something positive and loving. Powerful and well written – and I especially love the last line about the person in the mirror – that hits a home run! Excellent! Thanks for posting this and sharing your wisdom and perspective, you are helping to spread love throughout the world! ❤
Thank you Lynn! It’s SO good to hear from you and I’m thrilled you stopped by and your comment. It’s so much the little things–I can’t save the world nor would I want to intrude on that karma but if I can do one small thing to make a difference, that’s all I ask. You and Michele are both doing the same exact thing in your own ways. Love you and all you do!